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Well, ‘Fake‘ seems to be the new trend, and everyone is in style! It rather seems funny to me, sometimes how people smile at your face, when you know they least care.
When people are two faced, the only thing you will know for sure is that, you can’t trust either of them.
We all are in search of perfect relations, be it friends, partners, colleagues. But do perfect relations even exist? Do you always get people who stand by your side and be your confidant? Or do you encounter those backstabbing frenemies?
Nevertheless, it’s very gruelling to judge relations. People aren’t money that you’ll simply hold on to the light to check which one’s real and which one’s fake. You need to be tactful enough to unmask these phonies.
Real relations are never perfect. There ought to be fights, arguments, clashes as this all is pretty natural in real relationships. Real people have nothing to worry about, cause they are always their ‘self’. They simply can’t pretend, whereas fake people always have an image to maintain. I wonder sometimes how some people manage it so well, I mean how long can you fake love and care to someone your internally least bothered about?
No matter how painful or troublesome it may sound, cause of the frankness, real relationships are always better than the pretentious ones.
There can be few hints to save you from phony/fake relationships like:
– If your been shown, too much affection, especially publicly. Mind me, but your true people can never be dramatic. They know what you are and they have accepted you they way you are! They will never bother to simply go out of the way to impress you or get into you, cause they already have you in their lives, and that’s enough for them. Emotions are always private for them.
– When there are always only goodie and nice things going on. Two true friends are bound to have arguments, unless they are clones of each other. When there aren’t any heated discussions, clashes of opinions, then either your in a fake relationship or a lame one. Real people can obviously have different points of view and disagree fervently.
– When you aren’t sure of his/her likes and dislikes. Do you know your partner’s/ friend’s favorite movie, or dish, or crush in school times? If you don’t then you probably don’t know them enough.
– when they change their opinions/views according to people, time and places. When you discover that a person really does not have strong stands on anything. His/her opinions,views or words keep changing according to situations benefiting him/her, you can know it for sure, they are fake people.
– When it like takes everything in you, to even just smile to that person. If so, get the hint, may be you are being a pretend friend. When you had enough from someone, don’t really want to be with them, it’s always better to distance yourself for good rather than pretending intimacy.
People back stab cause either they are jealous, or trying hard to make to our level, but can’t. I read somewhere, ” We are stuck in a generation, where Loyalty is just a tattoo, Love is just a quote and Lying is the new truth“. Sometimes, just can’t agree more to this quote!
While I can’t change anyone around me, atleast I can choose the ones I want to be with. And then these phony people will only make my job easy to choose the real ones!
“The time for a person to instantly interact with his own soul, inspect his own mind and introspect with his own heart to identify his true quality of life is when too many people are too happy with him and he, too, is too much happy with them.” – Goodreads.
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